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Ashley Such
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Hello,Ms.Peters! Can you by any chance answer this question? O.K.,first of all, how are you? I'm good. Now for the questions: How did ya like playing 'Rose' in 'Gypsy'? How's you're married life goin' so far? Congrats on that! Um..... oh, why is it that when you do the voice of charaters[such as 'Angelique' & 'Sophie'], why does you're voice sound "different"? It sounds like you have a accent when you do it. Last, but not least, I don't know if this last question will sound innapporiate or not, but.... would you ever want to be a mother? I'm sure that you would make a wonderful Mom!Even though you're a momma to your dogs. See ya! Thanks for reading this! Best wishes, Ashley P.S. I LOVE YOU!!!!
Ashley Such
| Anonymous
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Ashley, how old are you?
| Ashley Such
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I'm 14. Is this Ms.peters?
Ashley Such
|  barcelona
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7/27/2004 | posted: 12/6/2004 at 9:28:14 PM ET
Hi Ashley! I'm not sure if Bernadette ever looks at this site, but you can ask her questions over on bernadettepeters.com! Try not to get too personal though, you have a better chance of being answered that way.
| Annie
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New York, New York | posted: 12/6/2004 at 9:31:07 PM ET
Yeah, try her other site I don't think she's ever posted a reply here, but she will there. Did you have any luck figuring out how to post at the site?
| jmslsu01
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northern VA | posted: 12/6/2004 at 11:05:39 PM ET
Ashley-
Before I start,I just want to assure you that this is not meant to be a mean lecture,but rather a "heads up." At your age,I don't think you would be thinking much about pregnancy and fertility, so I don't expect 14 year old girls to be more thoughtful about such things,until an older person discusses it with them.
It is generally not a good idea-and yes,it is considered inappropriate- to ask a childless/childfree woman if she would like to have children-especially if there is nothing she can really do about it now,being 56 years old,which is past childbearing age for the vast majority of women,and past the age to adopt from an agency or lawyer,for the most part. Sometimes it's a choice,and sometimes it's not,and it's best to be respectful of that. For women who are childless/childfree by choice,it's aggravating to be asked about children,since the implication is that it is normal for every woman to want children,and a reminder that the childless/childfree choice is still not considered a valid choice in society. Some women would rather not have children for various reasons. For those who are not childless/childfree by choice,it touches a raw nerve. You don't want to go there with women who are not childless/childfree by choice. And some women come to different terms and levels of acceptance of their situation,and deal with it in different ways.
This is not meant to be mean,since I know when I was 14 I didn't consider the larger issue at hand. When you get older and you and/or friends and/or family have to deal with it,you'll understand.
It's always nice to know that Bernadette has young fans. That's really neat.
I know you're not asking in prying terms,but in an innocent manner. Thanks for reading such a long post. If you stick around,you'll find that I do write long posts from time to time. I'm not trying to make a huge drama of it,but it is something that people need to consider,and most people don't do it to be unkind.
EDIT: I apologize if this comes across as harsh. I tried to coach it in a kind way. However,I am home sick for the second day running,so my judgement may be off!
Jenn
| Anonymous
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Thank you Jenn I was looking for a way to say that.
|  Chip1012
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Boston | posted: 12/7/2004 at 2:58:31 AM ET
oy.
"The child is so sweet and the girls are so rapturous. Isn't it lovely how artist's can capture us?~" Sunday in the Park with George
|  Surfergal1013
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Thats why there are hundreds of 14 year olds getting pregnant every day? I think when people get older.. they forget how much a 14 year old can do or know.. coming from only a 16 year old!
Caty
| jmslsu01
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northern VA | posted: 12/7/2004 at 8:27:41 PM ET
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Thats why there are hundreds of 14 year olds getting pregnant every day?
Caty,my cousin had a baby when she was 15,so I know. I apologize to Ashley for sounding like I was condescending,because that was not my intent. I was trying to be as nice and sunny as I could regarding this issue,and apparently should have thought about the wording. Ashley-I don't think you are dumb,and you obviously have good taste in music!
However,there are certain questions you really shouldn't ask if you don't know the answer,and believe me,from personal experience,you *don't* ask if a woman wants to have children,when she doesn't have children,and you don't know the answer. Perhaps I'm projecting,but I know women in the same boat,and it's something that they agree on as well. It's *not* something you want to go in with with someone who's not a family member or friend,and sometimes you don't even want to go into it when it's a family member or friend! Aaargh. And it's usually not teenagers who press the question,but adults,who should know better. Teenagers are still growing and maturing,and sometimes have greater sensitivity about some things that adults lose or forget,so please don't think I think teens are dumb. I work with children and teens on a daily basis,and I'll be the first to defend them against adults who think teens are "no good" and "dumb." But there are certain issues that you really don't think about when you're a teenager,and certain-not all-fertility issues are something that you don't fully comprehend until you're older and have to go through it or know someone who's going through it. And with more women delaying childbirth and childrearing,there are going to be more people who have to deal with these issues-and with more women deciding not to have children,the same applies.
It's like how I don't think about death and getting older like my 83 year old grandmother thinks about death and getting older. I'm not there yet,so I don't fully know. I'm not at that maturity yet. Just how I don't fully comprehend what it's like to have both of your parents dead and watch a parent die,as my mother does now.
Okay-I've said all I want to say,and I need to stop,because this is something that I feel very strongly about. And I'm not mad at anyone here,and I'm not offended-I can't stress that enough-but it's just something that strikes home. You know how that is? But please,ya'll-if you think a question may be inappropriate,it probably is,particularly if it involves something that is as big of a deal as childbearing and/or childrearing. I'm probably making a big deal over nothing,and people are certainly free to think so,but it hits home...and I'll shut up now,I promise....it's all so boring and common,I know...Ashley-again,I'm not mad and I don't think you're dumb-I just used your post to address something that I wish more people would consider...aren't you lucky...
Jenn
| Karen
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Definitely not a "big deal over nothing." Those are important points that we all need to remember and think about, not just in this context but in everyday life.
|  SingOutAnnie
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Bradenton/Sarasota, FLA | posted: 12/8/2004 at 12:46:18 PM ET
Ashley, whose enthusiasm shines through her message, should also keep in mind that adults do on occasion say the wrong thing.
I'm thinking now of that commercial where two women are in the grocery store and one says to other, 'When are you due?' and the other says 'I'm not pregnant!' and the first pauses and says 'Thank you' and they hug. THAT one happens a lot.
|  moljul
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| posted: 12/8/2004 at 1:31:14 PM ET
Yes Annie, I made that mistake once several years ago and have made sure I didn't make it again by never bringing up a pregnancy unless the woman brings it up first.
Jenn, I thought you explained things beautiful, as you often do. It was an inappropriate question to ask Bernadette or anyone but perhaps it was not immediately obvious to Ashley. So now she knows. Lesson learned.
Ashley, your enthusiasm is wonderful. One thing you may want to remember about Bernadette (a trait I love so much) is that while she is very giving and gracious to her fans and well, just people in general, she is a very private person. Much more so than your typical celebrity. Of course I would never refer to Bernadette as typical in any way.  So its probably a good idea to just not ask personal questions. I figure any personal information she offers in interviews and such is the extent that she wants to share and I highly respect her for that.
I'm sure we all look forward to your postings on this board.
| BroadwayBabie520
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Staten Island | posted: 12/8/2004 at 6:52:06 PM ET
Heyy guys I know I haven't posted in a while but when I read this post I felt like I had too. This just hit home on soooo many levels. I totally agree with Jenn. I've dealt with teenage pregnancy personally nd also my closest adult friend is having fertility problems nd Jenn's rite...it really does touch a raw nerve. I'm not condesending anyone I'm just trying to stress a point. Ashley I know you weren't trying to invade Bernadette's privacy or anything, it's just that this issue is very very close to me. I'm not calling you a stupid teen or anything cuz I'm 14 too. Anywayz I've said enough.
Love,
Katie**
*~Almost Famous~*
| Surfergal1013
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Long Island | posted: 12/8/2004 at 7:03:17 PM ET
I dont think Ashley is ever gunna wanna post on here again...
Caty
|  dulcinea4
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| posted: 12/9/2004 at 1:02:16 AM ET
Just to throw this in since we were talking about it here...Tonight on 2004 Most Intriguing People Barabara Walters did apporach the subject of motherhood with Oprah who turned 50 and is obviously beyond her child bearing age.
I do think, though, that fans should be careful of what they ask of celebrities and try to think what it would feel like if one day you woke up with an email in your inbox from a total stranger asking what your favorite food was. Would you respond?
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